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But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed.

If "dating" is defined as two single friends of the opposite sex doing things together for fun without any attraction or romantic desire or intimacy involved at all, there is no issue to discuss regarding dating. The Bible describes and gives directions concerning friendship.

Proverbs gives several characteristics of friends and friendships.

Prov.17: 17 says, “A friend loves at all times.” Prov.18: 24 says, “There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” Prov.27: 6 says, “When a friend rebukes you, that rebuke can be trusted.” Prov.27: 9 says, “The pleasantness of having a friend springs from his earnest counsel.” Prov.27: 10 says, “Do not forsake your friend.” These verses bring out the fact that the Lord blesses friendship and encourages us to develop them.

The stereotype of an adulterous affair in marriage has typically been the picture of a cheating husband.

The man has a one-night stand on a business trip or falls in love with his secretary.

Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?

If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.

Even though we are told people live happily ever after, divorce rates are high: statistics show that 53% of marriages end in divorce.

Even in groups where divorce is discouraged, it happens a lot: divorce is higher in “born again Christians” than other groups.

And infidelity statistics aren’t encouraging at all; most men and women would cheat if given the chance to do so without getting caught, and many actually have cheated.

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